Wrap Up

Howdy Kids,

Wrapping up a bit early, since, well, I'm not sure anyone is out there anymore. I thought it would be a good week to wrap up our final thoughts about Marry Him; The Case For Settling For Mr. Good Enough. So my question is simple - after reading the book, what are your final thoughts?

Truthfully, the book was quite eye-opening to me. Why? Because I think I discovered early on that I am probably the complete opposite of Gottlieb. If I were to analyze my dating faults, it would be that I've been too open, and probably haven't put enough thought into some of the criteria for the men I've dated. If anything, I've gone out with many guys who I knew beforehand didn't fit my bill, but in the spirit of "try anything once" have given them a go. The results on this has been a mixed bag; some were fine dates and made good friends (none of whom I'm still speaking to now), and some were complete disasters. In the end, I would say my spirit of open-mindedness helped me develop good dating techniques. I realize learning what not to do is perhaps not the best way to approach dating, but it worked for me.

I guess, in many ways, I'm not picky. This isn't to say that I date just anyone. But as I read about some of the reasons Gottlieb and others had X'd out potential suitors, I had to laugh. I'm sure my dating profile was passed many a time based on my looks alone, and perhaps that's why I didn't care if a guy was wearing a bow tie, or didn't smile enough, or had on too much yellow. Sure, I have preferences. But in the end of the day, it's the conversation that's going to keep me going.

And for god's sake - go out and meet someone for coffee! I've done this dozens of time. And really - why not? It's just coffee.

If anything, Marry Him has inspired me to one day write the work on how some of us approach dating from the other extreme. The perspective presented in this book is invaluable, and at the end of the day, I have to say; I'm glad I've taken my approach, and not Gottlieb's.